Setting Boundaries and Establishing Routines
One of the challenges you can face is the blurring of boundaries when looking after children in your own home. It can lead to stress, mental health problems, miscommunication, misunderstandings, conflicts and even potential allegations. Therefore, it is essential to set clear boundaries between work and personal life, which you can achieve by:
Setting work hours
- Clearly identify when your working day starts and ends, and adhere to these times as much as possible.
- Inform parents/guardians about the days/hours you are available in person and on the telephone, and put it in writing where possible.
- Avoid answering the phone or emails outside these hours unless it is an emergency.
- Do not be afraid to say no to avoid stress and burnout.
- Ensure you have days off and regular breaks to rest and recharge.
Having clear policies
- As well as working times, you want to make it clear to parents/guardians about the drop-off and pick-up times, behavioural expectations and any other rules.
- Communicate with parents/guardians about policies and procedures and give them copies where possible.
- Be clear on the consequences if they break any rules, e.g. non-payment and regular late pick-ups.
Keeping a professional distance
- While you want to foster trust and build relationships with children and their parents/guardians, it is crucial not to get too emotionally or personally involved.
- Be mindful of any interactions, including on social media, and always maintain appropriate relationships.
- Avoid accepting gifts or favours from parents/guardians, as it can create conflicts of interest.
Being consistent
- Follow your policies, procedures, schedules and routines to be consistent.
- You cannot expect children and parents/guardians to adhere to boundaries if you are not maintaining them yourself.
- If you need to make any changes, inform people in advance.
Having your own boundaries in the house
- Have your own private spaces/areas in the house away from where you provide childcare.
- Avoid being tempted to take work into areas where you relax, i.e. doing paperwork while watching the television.
Maintaining confidentiality and privacy
- Keep children’s and parent’s information private and confidential, as it is the law and the right thing to do.
- Ensure your own privacy by not sharing your or your family’s personal information, including on social media, and make it clear about technology use.
- Be careful of taking and sharing photos of children and your home.
As well as setting and maintaining boundaries, it is also vital to establish routines and schedules. They can help you become more organised, feel more in control and manage your time effectively, which will structure your working day and week. It will also help the children you care for, as they thrive on routine, and make them feel safe and secure. Your business is more likely to be effective and successful as a result.
Routines and schedules will also give your life balance so you can make time for yourself and your family and friends and maintain your physical and mental health and well-being. Predictability can reduce stress, as you will know what to expect and will give you the time you need to practice self-care.
While routines and schedules are important, try not to be too rigid, as you will likely face unexpected challenges and situations, such as emergencies, where you will need to make quick decisions and adjustments. Do not be afraid to adapt and be flexible where necessary.